A lady recently accepted RedditAfter she told her the name she chose for her baby boy and her sister said that she also wanted to give her child the same name, she sought information about her sister on the popular “I am a **hole” forum Suggest.
The post generated more than 10,200 votes and 1,100 comments About 18 hours later, the commenter stood by the poster, who did not give his name.
Redditor from u/AdventurousTop7565 explained that she and her husband are expecting their first child. She said the child will be born within a few weeks, and they will announce their pregnancy for the first time after the first three months.
During the announcement, the Redditor explained that she and her husband told everyone that they were expecting a boy and told everyone the name of their choice.
The post later explained that the woman’s sister had been trying to conceive her third child for more than five years, but failed. Redditor said that due to complications, her sister started receiving IVF treatment, hoping to get pregnant.
“As a result, she found out that she was pregnant 5 weeks after me, and announced that she was pregnant more than a month after us,” the post said. “She found out that she was also expecting a baby boy, and we were all excited about the idea of our children growing up to be best friends. Everything went smoothly until a few weeks ago.”
When the woman’s mother came to visit and help set up the nursery, she told her that her sister “likes this name very much”, and she and her husband chose it and decided to use it. Then her mother asked her if she planned to change her son’s name because it would be confusing to have two boys of the same age in the family.
The lady told her mother that she would not change her name because she and her husband had “set their hearts”, but then she received a call from her sister. During the conversation, her sister told her that since this is her “child prodigy”, she should be the first choice for whatever name she wants.
“I told her that she can name the child whatever she wants, but we will not change our view of the child’s name,” the post explained. “Aita doesn’t want to change my baby’s name?”
In the comments, many users expressed their support for this lady and said that her sister’s behavior was like the world revolving around her. Others called the woman’s sister stingy, and the woman should remember that she was wrong to be unhappy.
But this situation is not uncommon, and it is even created by many people as “baby name theft” on the Internet. The question is, how do people react to the “theft” of babies’ names?
International etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore (Jacqueline Whitmore) said that it is the best way to talk about feelings with relevant people.
“It won’t let them change the baby’s name or anything,” she told Huff Post. “But it may ease some of the tension between you.”
She said that frankly expressing your feelings is the best way to get a positive response from relevant personnel, without immediately attacking or making them feel bad.
Earlier this month, a mother who asked not to be named Posted on a popular parent website Call Mumsnet and ask for advice after her sister chooses a name that is similar to the name she told her to use for her child.
In the post, the woman said that she told her sister a few months ago that she really liked the name Judas, and her sister said she liked the name He.
But after her sister had given birth, she announced that they named the baby Jude. The anonymous woman said that she was “completely stunned” and “distracted”, but was not prepared to spark a family struggle for a name.
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On the forum, the woman asked whether people would still name their child Judas after their sister named the child Jude, or if she should choose a new name.
Many people in the comments quickly told the woman that her sister was unreasonable and that if she really liked the name Judas, she should go. But for that woman, it was not so much the name as the principle behind the theft.
She wrote in the post: “It is not the name that is really painful, but the malice behind it.”
