You need cheerleaders and truth-tellers
I have read a lot of articles about “find your cheerleader”.
Although it is important to have someone cheering for you, I find that having someone who speaks the truth in your life is equally important.
You need someone you can talk to, and they will tell you bluntly if you are in a vicious circle of self-pity, or you may only see the problem from one side.
When tired and harassed by life, it is easy to make your view of what is happening at work dim.
Someone reminds you that you can’t always be right, it’s just as important as someone cheering for you.
Rely on your friends
My circle of friends is also my lifeline.
We are a hybrid of cynical women in their early 40s and a Whatsapp group called “The Hot Tub Time Machine”-if I can publish its content, we will all become millionaires, but it is too unsuitable for public consumption .
What it provides is:
- encouraging words
- realism
- Love from trusted people
My group is made up of working parents-part-time and full-time, self-employed and full-time parents.
None of us claim to have a perfect balance.
We all have bad days. We all need regular advice and sometimes support.
This is normal, knowing that everyone has their own battle, no matter the settings and combinations, it is very reassuring.
To build your network, chat with people at events, on trains, in the kitchen at work, etc.
And don’t be afraid to get in touch with people you’ve only met once or twice to ask for their opinions or suggestions.
Working overtime, you will naturally build a trustworthy group.
