A woman in Reddit She quickly became popular after sharing a question with her in-laws on the popular “I am a **hole” forum on the site. In just one day, the post received more than 12,800 votes and 2,000 comments.
In the text, The woman-she did not share her name, but through you/Lobby 2021657 On Reddit-Explain that she and her fiance have been together for three years, but they recently got engaged. She said that in the past, her parents-in-law did not allow her to participate in festival traditions because she was “just a girlfriend.”
But she said that because they are now engaged, her in-laws invited her to join their holiday tradition, which is to travel abroad with the whole family. She said that this year, especially the family will spend 15 days to go to various ski resorts, shopping malls and other places to increase family affection.
“It sounds great, I’m very happy to be one of them, but they told me I have to pitch at 7k…” the lady explained in the post. “$7000 to go with them. I was shocked because it cost a lot of money on vacation travel. According to records, they are rich and work in high-paying jobs, and I have a 9 to 5 job that barely Work that makes me passable.”
In the post, the woman explained that she told her in-laws that she was sorry, but she did not have that kind of money. She said that their answer was that she did have the money and put out an emergency fund of $10,000, which she saved for her 12-year-old chronically ill son.
In the post, the woman said that although she said she could not afford it, her in-laws pressured her to join the trip. She added that they are planning to introduce her to other people in the family. It would be disrespectful not to join her because people will ask where their son’s fiancé is.
She said that she still declined the invitation, but her fiance said that her son really needs to travel, “Money should not be a problem coming and going.” She also said that it will be a “priceless opportunity” that can strengthen her Contact with family.
“He gave time to think, but I don’t intend to change my mind because it is crazy to expect me, a mother of a child with a chronic disease to spend so much money on a holiday trip,” the woman said at the end. postal. “My in-laws put pressure on me to make me feel disappointed in making the right decision instead of dying on the hill of money.”
According to family travel expert and founder Luisa Frey TeenTravelTalk.com, Traveling with in-laws can be difficult because you are not familiar with their daily habits or quirks.
“You are dealing with everyone’s own daily habits,” she told ABC“When it’s not your family, there are very different dynamics.”
Frey recommends living in the same place, but with different spaces. For example, different apartments in the same complex or different hotel floors. She also said that the length of the trip is very important.
“When dealing with family members and those who don’t belong to you, the week can be a bit long,” she explained.
Instead, she recommends taking short trips from the start. Try four or five days first, not a week.
Many users in the comments stated that her fiance cared more about the opinions of her family than her and her son’s happiness. One user even wrote a fake reply for the woman’s in-laws.
“Thank you for the invitation, it really changed life,” commented. “Because of this invitation, I now know
- Adam doesn’t care about my son or his medical needs.
- Adam cannot trust my personal financial information.
- Adam cares more about his mother’s opinion than my safety or my son’s happiness.
- You are all willing to spend my son’s money on a stupid party. “
Others in the comments wanted to know if her in-laws would be willing to help if she needed money to deal with an emergency.
“As long as I’m there, the way they talk about money, the answer is no,” the woman said in an update to the original post. “It’s like I’m a gold digger, chasing their money… this is unacceptable.”
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She also mentioned that her fiancé forced her to go because he didn’t want to go alone, but he still wanted to participate.
“If he doesn’t go, then his family will start publicly accusing me of splitting the family and breaking their traditions,” she explained in the update. “His words are not mine. They are what he said to me.”
Finally, the user said that the woman is “NTA” and her fiance needs to figure out his priorities.
“You don’t have a FIL problem,” one of the most commented. “You have a question.”
