Sometimes you feel like you are on top of the world.
Sometimes it feels like everything is falling apart.
On any given day, you may encounter any situation. Or both. I know. I have been there. We all have.
However, if you are one of those people who show up with all their energies in everyone and in every situation, you will soon run out of glasses. Let me emphasize that the phrase “you can’t pour from an empty glass” is not just a cliché…it is so true.
Do you suffer from “empty cup syndrome”?
If your typical day includes any or all of these things, then your glass is probably empty or on the way.
- You work, run a family, manage relationships, and may even have children at home
- You take your elderly parents to all their dates and buy groceries for them
- You are an informal “life coach” for family, friends, colleagues, and even people you meet while queuing at the grocery store
- You have been trying to balance everything for everyone, and you have a smile on your face
- You put the needs (and desires) of others in front of yourself, and only give yourself some when you have time or energy “remaining”
- You like to be everyone’s first choice girl because you feel needed and valued, but at the end of the day, you are exhausted physically and mentally
Sound familiar?Remember, even if you tick one One of these boxes (not to mention the many other boxes I haven’t mentioned here) may put you at risk of empty cup syndrome.
Symptoms of empty cup syndrome
You may have determined that most of the time your cup is empty, but if you are in the rejection stage (completely natural), here is a checklist that can help you treat yourself honestly:
- You feel dilapidated
- Your skin is dull
- Your eyes are dim
- You feel unhealthy
- You can’t focus
- You can’t sleep well, even though you might fall down from exhaustion
- You have stopped pursuing your hobby
- You rely on unhealthy snacks or meals instead of getting nutritious fuel
- You feel you need to keep pushing, no matter what
You may also feel that there are too many people relying on you that you need to make time for yourself… This includes exercise, meal preparation, quiet time or any leisure activity.
Friend, if you think you have lost yourself Play the role of mother, grandma, aunt, friend, employee, colleague, wife-as Caregiver ——Your glass is empty.
Why is it so important to fill your own glass?
If you’ve ever been on an airplane, you’ve heard rumors about putting on your own oxygen mask before helping others use it. This is because if you pass out due to lack of oxygen, you will not do any good to other people.
The same is true when helping others in daily life. When you are almost unable to work properly, you cannot be there for them or yourself.
Not only that, but ignoring one’s own needs also have some very serious physical defects.
Have you heard of the gut-brain connection?If you are not familiar with it, I wrote a whole article about it, you can Read here.
But all in all, your intestines (that is, your entire gastrointestinal system) and your brain are constantly communicating with each other through a communication network called the “gut-brain axis” in the body. Information is passed back and forth between your actual brain and your “second brain” (that is, your intestines), and the health of one affects the health of the other.
When you feel stressed, the signals sent from your brain to the intestines through the vagus nerve are suppressed. This leads to an imbalance in the fragile ecosystem of the intestine. Unbalanced gut microbiota can negatively affect your digestion, immune system, sleep, weight, blood sugar, energy level… continuously.
So you can see that the “persistence” that does not take time to rest and recharge will cause you to have health problems. If you ignore it, it may lead to lasting health problems.Suddenly, being everyone’s first choice gal is no longer an option…because you are breastfeeding yourself regain health.
As the saying goes, “If you don’t make time for your health, you will be forced to make time for your illness.” You don’t want that. No one wants you.
How to refill your glass…and keep it full
If you are used to rotating all the plates, then everything I suggest here will not be easy. But it is all necessary. Assure me (and yourself…and your loved ones) that you will prioritize these things.You will prioritize yourselfIn this way, you can help other people wear their oxygen masks while knowing that your oxygen masks are intact and keep you strong.
- enough sleep: A full night’s rest can do wonders for your health, your overall outlook, and the way you interact with people around you. If possible, strive for 7 to 8 hours a night.
- Add nutrients to your diet: Bone broth It is a relaxing drink before bed, rich in nutrients beneficial to intestinal health.It can also be tasteless Complete collagen Add your favorite soups, smoothies or even coffee to increase your daily protein intake and support joint comfort, healthy blood sugar levels, and bright skin and hair.
- Spend time in nature: Even in everyone’s confusion, your mind and body eager Outdoor time. Taking a walk on the beach or just sitting on the front porch is great for your mental health.
- Exercise regularly: Being active is usually related to appearance, but moving the body is a loving self-care behavior. Not only will you sweat to expel toxins, but also a lot of endorphins will make you feel happier and rejuvenated!
- Take “me” for the day: Whether you are taking a warm bath, reading a book or receiving a massage (which is good for sleep and mood), please take some time to do things that make you happy.
related: 9 tips for improving happiness (no medicine)
- Start journaling: It doesn’t matter what you write, but this process is a catharsis for you. Keeping a diary can reduce stress and clarify your thoughts, so you can turn to a new page of happiness and focus on making you, you.
- Let go of things: Do you really need to do all the shopping of your parents? Is there anyone else who can help? Maybe you resigned from your position on the PTA board of directors, or you hired a housekeeper to help with housework. Taking things apart can help you have room to breathe… and give you time to fill your glass.
- Respect yourself: Always remember that you are as important as you Everyone else In your life. Therefore, it is not okay to say that things that consume your energy are not possible. “No” is a complete sentence, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
Remember this… it’s time to say “yes” to yourself. Say YES to rich nutrition, say YES to sports, and say YES to your hobbies. Your cup needs to be filled. Your health depends on it.
Bonus tips: In any case, never forget to speak to yourself with the kindness and respect you have towards your loved ones. You talk to yourself more often than anyone else. Make sure that what you say fills your soul.
