There is a psychological theory that the human brain can suppress painful memories so that we don’t postpone doing something—for example childbirth, Say. I began to wonder if this happened to me; if in a locked state, my brain would deliberately forget the pain of socializing among a large group of people. Happy”Free day“——In other words, the rule of six is over and large-scale gatherings return; Birthday party Where you are trapped in someone’s (boring) plus one and passive aggressive bill calculation acrobatics, it takes 40 minutes, because it appears that one person actually only has a salad, and the other person obviously has a three-course feast that fits Henry VIII. Remember the sentence of Sartre, other people are hell? If not, you have to do it.
Maybe my expectations of re-entering are too high. During the lockdown, my social life mainly consisted of having the same conversation at the door with my 74-year-old chain-smoking neighbor about garbage collection day-I really wanted to see my friend.I imagined that spontaneous drinking would evolve into dancing in the kitchen until 3 in the morning. The group dinner made me feel that we were the funniest people in the room (actually we were just the noisiest) and Gossip Report the next morning. Reality can never match my idealized memory. Not all red wines are loud.In fact, people are pushing cheap now Prosecco In you, you can feel the toxic sugar crash/hangover combo even before your first sip.
Now that there is no limit to the number of people you can see, the situation will get worse. In the six-a-side era, the guest list is limited, which usually means you only need to meet your real friends. Now, it’s another melee, and you will realize that you miss some people more than others. This was originally the summer of love. Why should I feel sorely scarred from social during this time and have to tolerate my friend’s girlfriend thinking that Covid is a conspiracy?
Ah, they are very good-you don’t have to negotiate where to meet for a few months because your friend chose to move to Norbury and doesn’t want to go anywhere else.She suggested Victoria As a compromise, you know that the area around the station is a whirlpool, and nothing interesting has ever happened.
I am happy for my friends’ huge house in Kent, but I am not so happy that this means I should go there now.
Some people have not changed. Your friend somehow always escapes without buying a bottle of wine, and he still has this special skill. A colleague said that the blockade made her bolder. She told a stingy friend, “You know these are not free, will you get the next batch?”
But it all depends on whether you can meet. People’s lives have changed in the past two years, which for many people means moving to the suburbs or having children. The last-minute drink has passed, and now the plan is a military operation. Chatting before and after drinking is full of judgment. “I am huge for my friends houses in Kent, Really, I am,” said a lady on the front line of the new social event. “But I am not so happy that this means I should go there now. ”
Wechat The group makes the problem worse. They are subject to performance busyness—”I can’t do anything on the following Saturday, but what about October?” It’s best to just send private messages. It’s frustrating when someone replied that they can’t hold a party in a large public group, it will lower your mood and make you look unwelcome.
Oh, beware of jellyfish-those who go with the wind say you think it is a compliment, but when you leave, you will realize that it left a sting. Lockdown has set aside space for this. The classic comment is, “You look good, a lot slimmer than before” or “You haven’t managed to get a haircut yet?” You are lucky. No one mentions coronaspeck. In German it is The meaning of fat after locking.
Other crimes include stealing other people’s jokes-repeating what someone said but louder. See also, tell embarrassing stories in front of new friends or reveal gossip you shouldn’t tell anyone.
Another person mistakenly thought that he had a glass of wine during treatment. They analyze themselves carefully, hold their breath and say “So, tell me about you”, and then bring it back because one thing you managed to say reminded them of what they had experienced. Really, you should admire their perseverance. It must be boring to talk about yourself for so long. You must be boring. You almost prefer to see you as a show-off friend to the audience.
What is the solution? The first thing to know is who your allies are. True friends are usually not like all the above types of people unless they can see that you are trapped next to someone no one wants to talk to and they ignore your SOS signal. If this happens, you can get a drink to get rid of yourself, even if you are full, pretend to drink it later, or go to the toilet. Mute your WhatsApp group and always order what you want-no matter what happens, you will eventually split the bill. Good luck-this is a jungle.
Wait, yes you Annoying friends?Take a quiz to find out
Today is the day! What are the plans?
One kind. Today is Monday, so it’s nothing.
Six people drink together. (There is no reason to go too far.)
C. HOUSE PARTYYYYYYYYYYYY! You have told your neighbor to buy Airbnb.
One kind. Oh my goodness, all of this is a little strange, isn’t it!
C. Oh my God, you look so different!
One kind. Ask everyone politely what they want.
B. Rearrange what everyone got last time.
C. On the way back from the toilet, walked sideways to the bar, and then poured the new drink into the old glass to cover up the traces.
One kind. Full-ish: Dinner next week, one week later.
Bay out of control. You have to pull a few patients.
C. You just remortgaged your apartment to spend the summer.
You are organizing all of the above plans:
One kind. Send WhatsApp to individuals and make them feel valued.
One named “SUMMER OF
C. Through the mailing list you set up. Subscribe now!
Congratulations. Your friends still like you.
You are excited, but not a monster.
You are an annoying friend.
