Angry buddies and nasty mites

RiseDear readers, many people should know: In interpersonal relationships, quarrels often occur, which can also be triggered in very mediocre daily conversations. why is that? One reason for this may be an unconscious anger in one of the partners. When the couple reconciled again, they sometimes even laughed at the pointlessness of the argument. But in the moment of anger, both are very serious. How did this aggression arise, and why are some relationships affected while others have never been experienced? “If someone suddenly becomes aggressive in a relationship or elsewhere, it is often unconscious anger behind it,” Andreas Wahl-Kordon, a psychotherapist and medical director at Oberberg Fachklinik Schwarzwald, explained to our colleague Katrin Hummel. He has taken care of many angry patients. What they have in common is that they usually don’t even know that they are angry. According to Wall Corden, this outburst of anger is always based on the need to keep a distance from oneself, so as not to suffer from the feeling of powerlessness that arises when one is generally angry. Sometimes this is related to parents.

From quarreling to itching: they are less than one millimeter in size, but people who know them, if in doubt, will talk about them for weeks. Autumn mites, also called summer mites—more precisely: their larvae—seem to be particularly active this year. More and more patients turn to their general practitioners for help. They complain that the itchy parts often extend to the entire body, such as the arms and legs. Pustules are more itchy than mosquito bites and last longer. In most cases, the affected person must wait up to two weeks for the pustules and itching to disappear. These mites appear around June to October. They like low vegetation and often appear in gardens and grass. The larva bites under the skin and sucks out the protein-rich lymph fluid, which will disappear after a few hours. But the itching still exists. Katja Winter carefully observed the matter with mites.

Finally, some true love: If a 65-year-old widow and a 67-year-old divorced man want to live under one roof in the future, how should they deal with their big house without debt? Things that seem simple at first glance can lead to practical problems after careful inspection, which is why our financial expert Volker Looman summarized the pitfalls of this story. His tip: A bed is a bed, and a house is a house. Please don’t confuse these. What does he mean? Please read it here.

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